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TheTasteOfPurple
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When you have a crush on someone, do you let that person know? Do you have any sort of policy or rules of thumb for whether and when you tell them? Do you prefer to tell them in person, or via the phone or a text-based medium, or even through a mutual friend?

I usually don't tell somebody I'm crushing on them until at least a month after I start developing romantic feelings for that person. That's not a conscious policy, though, just more of a "moment-feeling-right" intuitive thing. I prefer to tell my crushes through some sort of text-based medium initially, because that way I feel like I have plenty of time to sort out my thoughts and decide on the words I want to use (mostly just because I'm a very word-oriented person) and then continue talking about what we each want out of our relationship in person, over the phone and through the 'net.

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desperateloner
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I can relate to you deeply. I have asked people out via facebook and phone. I have found out that is the easiest way to ask someone out but also the least successful. Being a guy a also know we love girls who arnt afraid to ask a girl out. We are as afraid as you are. In person is the best way because you cant hear the emotion behind the txt. It is also harder to say no in person and the guy will probobly give you a chance. Hope I helped. If you have any questions email me or message me.

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Love to love
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I guess it just depends on the situation. I remember in high school I used to text my crushes and flirt, and if they flirted back or made the first 'I'm crushing on you text' then ya I would do that. I don't think I told many boys when I liked them in person... I think it was mostly through text or FB. But when I started dating my boyfriend I was just so comfortable around him, and knew that something would become of us that I ust talked about my feelings in person, and so did he.

It was really cute how shy and nervous he got when he asked me to be official. [Smile] <3

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