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Aqlexd
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I used to be going out with this guy, Dan, & I fully admit how I got to be going out with him was not the best way (I took him off my best friend :/) so anyway long story short we broke up & I really still like him even though we had a bad relationship (he cheated on me more than once & I self-harmed a lot over him) & I recently started talking to a guy from his school, G, now G says he loves me & we've done a bit but a friend from primary, T, says he loves me too. & we've kissed a few times but I don't trust him and now I really fancy my teacher... & my flirting was paying off... & now I have no idea what on earth to do with T or G & I'd love for Dan just to talk to me & my friends' are all getting annoyed with my self-harming & I just want it all to be sorted out without me trying to kill myself again.javascript:void(0) [Confused] [Confused]

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Karybu
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I'll be perfectly honest: none of these guys sound like they're great people to be in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with. (And, if you've got this much going on, it might be a really good time to take a break from dating altogether for awhile.) One thing that is absolutely not okay is your teacher showing any romantic interest in you - he is in a position of authority and that needs to remain a purely student-teacher relationship.

Have you thought about getting counselling around the self-harming and these relationship issues?

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I have thought about it but my parents are against the idea (I live in very rural Wales, the nearest place for counselling is about 17/18 miles away) so I have no way of getting there.

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Do you have a counsellor, social worker or nurse who works for your school? Maybe you could even have a word to your GP about the self-harming, if you felt comfortable with them?

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No, we share one nurse with about another 10+ schools in the county. My GP knows about the self-harming but he cannot do anything about it, only refer me to the clinic in the hospital.

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