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Hey Everyone,
well I've been thinking for the past few days if somethings going wrong in this relationship i have with my boyfriend. He's graduating on thursday, straight after that he's got his exams comming up, every since last thursday ( which i was supposed to see him ) he didnt make it cause he said that his dad told him he had to study! Ever since then we havent had a proper conversation.. On Thursday he kept apologizing because he couldnt make it, and he said he loved me but i didnt reply back. On Friday i waited till I'd get a text from him, but he didnt send me a text, so i told him '' why arent you texting me? '' He's like '' you tell me? '' and i told him well ive been waiting till you did, he said ive been waiting for the same thing. x ''

So basically, after that i said i missed him, he said it back, and then i said i wanted to see him. and guess what he didnt reply back?!
On saturday we were okay, but there wasnt much talking going on just three messages were sent... which were what are you doing and stuff, which was ME. who started it.

Yesterday, i waited till i'd get a msg from him, and i slept and thats when i got a msg from him saying '' no text today? i just finished tuition x ''

So, I replied back today! saying sorry didnt reply back, i miss you, i want to see you, please come out on friday?

And he didnt say anything much all he said, i will i promise babe. x

and few hours after that i sent him another message saying what are you doing, and he said just finished studying babe you? i said watching a movie, and NOTHING after that?!

Am i just being paranoid? is this normal? cant he take a break and talk to me? It doesnt feel like i could call him my boyfriend anymore.. It just doesnt feel the same the past few days.. I keep thinking if hes cheating on me, i really dont know..

Help Please! [Confused]

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Texting REALLY isn't a sound way to be in good communication. It's great for sending someone a note when you're supposed to meet them and got lost, good for just sending a casual hello or a joke, but NOT good to make your regular communication in a relationship. A LOT can get lost in the shuffle, including the texts themselves.

So, how about instead of leaping to all kinds of assumptions and continuing with a form of communication that's substandard, you TALK to your boyfriend, either in person or at least by voice call?

Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen
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Hey Heather, sorry didnt reply back, my internet wasnt working, but it all worked out again and he just called me, and i told him, he said i had nothing to worry about he just really wants to study. [Smile]


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