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At Scarleteen, we have a lot of great resources on relationships but I'd like to see is (even) more discussion on what a good relationship is... and isn't. [Smile]

There are some related threads but I wanted to do this in bullet form. I've got some points to start but I'd like to hear your thoughts and experience: you can repeat things people ahead of you have mentioned as well as share personal stories if you'd like.


What is a good relationship? What isn't a good relationship?
*By relationship, I mean a romantic and/or sexual partnership, but I think many points apply to platonic friendship, too. [Wink]

What a good relationship is
- You enjoy spending time with your partner.

What a good relationship isn't
- You have to or feel pressured to change your relationships with friends and/or family, like spend less time with them or keep secrets from them about your relationship.

[ 02-20-2010, 11:56 PM: Message edited by: Ecofem ]

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What a good relationship is:
- Someone who can act as your best friend, no topic is left untouched!
- When you wake up excited to see them/talk to them each day.
- When he/she gets along great with your friends and family without being phony.
- Someone you feel comfortable with (socially, emotionally, sexually)
- No pressure, always a good time.

What a good relationship isn't:
- Not respecting your sexual boundaries/safety.
- Tries to turn you against friends and family.
- Makes you jealous on purpose.
- Says he/she's somewhere when he/she is not.
- Lies, lies, lies.


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What a good relationship is:
-When you feel safe with the person
-When you know that you can call the person at 3Am in the morning if you're feeling down

What a good relationship isn't:
-When the person calls you names and puts you down
-When the person won't respect you or your boundaries

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What a good relationship is:
When you are nice about each other's bodies, giving compliments and making sure that you both know you are beautiful however you look
When you can openly discuss contraception, STIs and safer sex and what you need to do to have safe sex is accepted

What a good relationship isn't:
When one partner puts pressure on another to do sexual things they don't want to do
When you call each other mean names
When you are scared to tell your partner there is something you don't want to do with them (sexual or otherwise)

Always knock before entering my room when I am in there alone, as I may be doing all sorts of wonderfully thrilling things that I'd rather you didn't see.

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What a GOOD relationship is :

-SOmeone you can be yourself with
-being totally honest about everything
-being able to talk
-understand each other ( most of the time) and if not are willing to talk/do something about it
-care for each other
-respect each other
-being there for each other

what a good relationship ISN'T:
-making each other uncomfortable
-forcing anything onto anyone
-deliberately harming
-"using" someone

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