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This guy I am seeing just ended an 18 month relationship with another girl. While he was with her we both acknowledged that there was something between us, but neither party was going to act on it until he ended his relationship. We ended up having sex 10 days after he broke up with her. I'm just not sure where I stand. I don't want to be token rebound girl [which he denies], but other associates have expressed a concern that I am. We talked about it, and he said that he cares to much about me for that, but I am still unsure.

Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions on how to handle this?

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Well, one of the cool things about sex is that once we have it with someone, we don't have to keep on having it.

In other words, if that felt too quick for your comfort, and you're worried he might be rebounding, you can always go back to square one, put sex on the shelf for now, and either start with some platonic dates or take some time where you're not dating yet so he can process his breakup first.

Does that sound like something that might feel better for you?

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