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amelie poulain
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So this is my first topic, and I'd love some advice on this situation I've dealing with. For about a year now, I've been struggling with the end of a friendship that was hugely important to me, and that for me bordered on a romantic relationship (particularly in terms of emotional intimacy). There are a number of factors in our growing apart, not the least of which is the fact that he has a girlfriend who's not really comfortable with the two of us being close.

Problem is, he actually landed a fairly large part in a movie last year, which just came out. I'm happy for him, but suddenly, his poster is literally all over, and my old friends talk like he's a god or something. The way people are acting is driving me crazy, and making it a million times harder to get some distance from the guy.

I know fame isn't everything, but I keep comparing myself to him, and it's wreaking havoc on my self-esteem. Any ideas on how I can get some distance from Hollywood ideals, and back into my own head? Or just thoughts about the weirdness of celebrity culture's values?

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People are what they are. People talk, people say things that aren't true, people blow things out of proportion, and plenty of people need to get a serious grip on reality. I highly doubt any of this will change any time soon, if ever. With that in mind, remind yourself that you can choose to take note of things. Yes, it makes it harder that he is suddenly on billboards and posters, but that doesn't change your relationship or that fact that things didn't work out.

Time will also be an important factor, I think. Eventually (and very quickly the entertainment business) his "fame" will be past, hence the phrase "15 minutes of fame"'s got quite a bit of truth to it.

Part of staying in your head will be pure willpower. Not everyone can act, and fewer can act well. But while it's certainly a noble profession, it's not the stick by which someone is measured, you know? Plenty of amazing, brilliant and witty people go unnoticed every day, but that doesn't make who they are or what they do any less important or amazing. [Smile]

[ 04-08-2009, 11:20 PM: Message edited by: JamsessionVT ]

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