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ragazza di verde.
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Hey.

So, my boyfriend & I have been together for two years. We've had a pretty good relationship, blah blah etc. We've always given each other presents for birthdays, christmases, etc. Nothing extremely extravagent, but neither of us needed diamond-encrusted items, either. It's been more of the thought than the item, because we've chosen things that we'll actually appreciate rather than typical, boyfriend-girlfriend items, & it's only on holidays that we do such things.

Anywho. My 17th birthday. It's gone and past, but here's the thing: this valentine's day, we didn't get each other anything. I at least assumed it was an unsaid aggreement, because we just wanted to make sure we were together & had a special day because that was all we wanted. However, along comes my birthday, and..nothing. I mean, I don't want to seem materialistic, because quite honestly, I could really care less. & he spent time with me on my birthday & the days surrounding it, but I never received a gift from him. It's the whole thought thing. & even more so, he said something a couple days before my birthday about how he was trying to figure out what to get me, & i reassured him that he is always good with choosing (which he is - or has been.) you know, the typical things you say to someone before their birthday - nothing out of the ordinary.

I'm just wondering..do you think it's worth mentioning? I mean, we have good communication together, I just don't know quite what to say. I know it's harder for him to get money now because he hasn't been able to get a job because of sports & his parents recently divorced, but it's a little strange he would talk about it normally, as if it were happening, and then not do anything, or at least say anything about it.

I really feel bad posting this, because I don't want to seem ungreatful for anything; I'm just not sure what to say.

Thankss guys.

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SnailShells
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I would definately mention it. You don't have to demand diamond earrings or a night at the opera--but just mentioning that you would appreciate some kind of gift (hand-written love letters are seriously a wonderful gift that don't cost a thing; picnics in the park with a little surprise like your favorite soda or cheese or whatever are also nice and inexpensive) that shows some thoughtfulness. I would try to explain as politely as possible that a small gift on your birthday is nice, that he doesn't have to break bank but you would love a small token of his affections, and maybe playfully ask when he'd like to celebrate your birthday. Expecting a gift on your birthday from your boyfriend of two years is certainly not being materialistic or ungrateful [Wink]

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