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awonderingpoet
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My boyfriend and I love each other very much… but we are having a few problems with our parents. We have an awkward situation… My dad works for his… and for a while now his dad has been asking mine about my boyfriends and my relationship. The odd thing is that he and he dad talked about all this a while ago… and they agreed to talk to each other, is his dad had any questions he would ask him, and not my dad. My dad is a very religious man and doesn’t lie. So if he is asked about something that he knows he feels like he has to tell… It’s difficult for me on this because I am used to telling my parents a lot. We have a very open relationship and I feel very close to them… but now that we have this situation I feel that I can’t tell my dad anything about what’s going on for fear that he’ll be asked about it. I can still talk to my mom, but I know it’s difficult for her to not talk to my dad… and I really don’t want to put him in a bad situation… my boyfriend is going to talk to his dad again… other then that is there anything I can do?

Oh, and we started going out before my dad got the job… we met in drama club about 4 years ago…have been good friends for about 2 years… and have been dating for about 5 months…


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Bobolink
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I think that having your boyfriend talk to his father is the way to go. That way, his father won't learm of your relationship 3rd hand. Is there reason to be worried about him finding out about you and his son are girlfriend and boyfriend?

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awonderingpoet
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Oh no, he already knows we are going out. That is why he asks my dad questions... He wants to know what's going on between us.
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Bobolink
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Unless you and your b/f are engaged in unsafe behavior, it is not your Dad's place to pass on private information. Have you discussed this with your dad? Probably the best response your dad could make to an inquiry would be to refer his boss to his own son.

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