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bee_is_me
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Okay, well I know I'm not at all alone in that my parents do stuff that makes me want to punch someone. Sometimes it's because I've done something which is wrong and I just lose it when they dish out the consequence. And most of the time I know it's reasonable at the back of my mind. Other times they stop me doing things which I think I should be able to do but they don't. And other times they just say/do stuff that pisses me off/embarrases me out of nowhere.

And I just wish I could stop getting so angry/embaressed all the time. Because I don't like acting like a petulant child, nor does anyone. I know that, of course, I won't be able to completely stop the feelings, because they're a 'normal part' of growing up. I was just wondering if anyone had some handy hints to dealing with them, particularly the anger. Sometimes I get so angry that I punch/bite/hit myself and obviously that's not a good thing to do, but neither is shouting at my parents.

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JamsessionVT
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Do you have this problem in other areas of your life as well, managing your anger/annoyance? Because while it is common for teens to become annoyed or angry with parents decisions, this sounds like a little more than that.

Something to consider: unless there is a physical or mental problem, you always have control of your emotions and what you say/do. So while is it common for teens to get angry with their parents, it shouldn't be considered acceptable or normal. So those feelings that you consider a "normal part" of growing up? Really, you have absolute control over them. Yes, parents do silly things, say silly things, make decisions we don't agree with, but most of the time it's in our best interests.

Have you thought about anger management, or seeing a therapist? Because honestly, hitting/biting/punching oneself is not a normal or healthy coping mechanism for anger or frustration.

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bee_is_me
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No, I don't have anger issues at all. And the anger I *do* feel towards my parents isn't uncontrollable. I guess I kind of came across wrong. In other areas of my life I'm pretty calm. It takes quite a bit to get me to lose it completely. I'm never violent with my parents, never swear etc. And, I completely agree with you. It is *common* but I never said it was acceptable or normal. I don't *want* it to be. That's the whole reason I posted this. I want to take these common emotions and deal with them in a healthy way. And I only do those things I mentioned when I'm *really* angry, which doesn't happen often.

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