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PinkSweetHeart
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Im 14.And my boyfriend is 15.We have ben daiting for about 3 years now, We have had our rough times!But last summer we stoped daiting..and then got back together..And im so glad we did.We dont argue like we did..."we dont act like kids anymore"
Im in love!He says he is to=] He says all the time that we are gonna get married...and basically have our life dreams planned out. [Smile]
Nothing has really ever seperated us since we met 4/5 years ago.
We have talked about many things with each other...Like Sex.Which we both know we are not ready for!But we did start things such as Fingering...and Here and there a Handjob...
Could this be more then just young love??
Or am i really stupid for thinking that this will later be more.
I always see on tv and stuff of how people/couples like me and my boyfriend will get married..but it just ends in Flames:(
My boyfriend makes me feel awesome.Like im perfect just the way i am...And i feel like nothing can touch me when im with him...We make eachother feel like that.
Please tell me what you think.

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Heather
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No matter what age people are or how much they love each other, that doesn't mean a given relationship -- or a certain kind of relationship -- with someone will turn into marriage or last a lifetime. There are a lot of different circumstances where that just doesn't happen, including the fact that we all change as we grow, no matter our age, and sometimes, those changes don't mesh so well with another person over time.

But a relationship does not have to last any given amount of time to have value. A relationship or interpersonal exchange that lasts even just a few days or an evening can be life-altering and valuable.

While it's normal for really young people to fantasize about adult life a lot, that doesn't always equal reality (in fact, far more often than not, it does not). But that's okay. Even if eventually things do change, and the plans you two have now don't come to fruition and that's sad or disappointing, it's not really a valid measure of love or how important a relationship is.

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PinkSweetHeart
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Thanks=]
For now..I think ill just enjoy what i got..and maybe it will take me somewhere in the future:)

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Heather
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Exactly.

Because you know, if you're not enjoying and appreciating it for what it is now, in the now, then even if it does go on for decades, they probably won't be very good ones. [Smile]

And enjoying and appreciating it for what it is now, rather than getting caught up in possible futures also probably makes it a lot more likely that it WILL last, and last as something great.

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