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bixit91
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Realised it sounded sooo confusing so i will edit it by putting in fake names
O.K well i met this boy, Will a couple of times through my friend and the first time I met him i could jus tell straight away that he liked me by the way that he looked at me - i cant explain it but there was just something.
N then the next time i saw Will (last week) he and his two friends took me and my friend home 2 the bus stop and Will held me for ages until our bus came.
Then his best frend, James was flirting with me and so i asked James if he liked me BUT Will said 'Yes' instead which was reli good until i ruined it by saying 'i wasnt talkin 2 u' which sounded reli rude.
The problem is that James likes me as well and while Will was holding me James kissed me which made it reli awkward - (bt i told James that i dnt c him in that way - so im nt leadin him on or anything).
Now i speak to his James most days on msn and sumtimes on the fone but we are ONLY frends nd he knows tht.
Thing is the Will hardly makes any effort with me, dosnt call me, acts reli strange on msn and on the phone. He knows that I like him too but now it seems like he doesnt even care.
James says that that is just the way Will is but why wld he make some effort then stop all of a sudden?
I'm seeing Will and James on Friday along with all their other friends and two of mine - but i don't know what to do/ how to react please help - i like him loads!!! [Frown]

[ 07-01-2008, 03:57 PM: Message edited by: bixit91 ]

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bixit91
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please will sum1 say smthg

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Jase Watson
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It sounds to me that possibly he was offeneded by what you said. I think the best thing you could do is call him and say "Look. I want to talk to you. That day at the bus stop when you were holding me, I really enjoyed it. It felt nice to be held by you. I didnīt mean to come across rude. I was just a little shy and didnīt want to reveal the fact that I liked you. The truth is, I really like you, and I would love nothing more than for you to hold me again." Then see what he says, you donīt have to make him ask you out or anything, just let him know that youīd like it if he would participate more at showing wethere he likes you or not.

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bixit91
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I suppose - but is it such a good idea to express my feelings so openly like that - it will hurt really bad if i get rejected.

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If he knows that he likes you, and he isnīt making much of an effort, but you havenīt heard of him going after other girls, then thereīs a possibility that he just doesnīt understand how much you like him. If you feel uncomfortable with that, perhaps ask the friend of ihs that kissed you to talk to him and drop a couple hints? But personally, if I were you, Iīd rather do it myself, because involving someone else might complicate things, as in a bad way. They might say things you donīt mean, etc.

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orca
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Hey bixit. You don't have to let out all of your feelings to him at once. That can be difficult for some people, and if you aren't ready to do that then you don't have to. However, beating around the bush and playing games isn't so great either as it tends to just create a lot of confusion. Perhaps you could try talking to Will and tell him that you would like to get to know him better, or ask him if he'd like to hang out with just you sometime. It might also help to apologize if you came off as a little rude.

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