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sarahwashere87
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So my friends with benefits type relationship thing just kind of blew up in my face last night. After a two hour phone call (we both went home for the summer so we hadn't seen i other in a month) where we decided that because of his strong desire to get back w/ his gf was going to make our relationship no longer possible the way it was, we decided that we would go back to being "just friends". I respect his choice, but I'm worried about what our relationship will be like when we both get back to school. I'm a little bit hurt (my own fault i knew the risks going into this), but I feel like I can move past that. I'm more worried about how comfortable we'll be around each other. Any advice or suggestions from anyone whose been in this situation would be appreciated.
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Sarah

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Gumdrop Girl
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Considering your feelings now, your FWB relationship was a little more romantic than casual for you.

I'd say take the summer to cool off. Then don't see him at all, even at school. You're too fresh out of this arrangement to be friends, and that'll just mess with your head and mess with his relationship.

It's best for you both to be apart completely. I wouldn't rush into dating or another FWB just yet, either.

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Jase Watson
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I totally agree with Gumdrop Girl. Just take the summer to go out with other friends, have fun. Go somewhere that makes you happy. The beach (if you can), the pool, a park, local hangout spot. But, please, call him one last time and let him know that your not mad at him or avoiding him, just let him know that you need some space, and that he probably needs some space with his new g/f, that way if you decided to try a friendshup again, he doesn┤t go off on you, thinking you hated him / were mad at him / etc.

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sarahwashere87
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So I didn't talk to him for a week, but he texted me last night wanted to know how my fourth of July was, that kind of stuff. I was feeling ok talking to him, but then he sent me a text that was like "me and my girl freind, and my freinds" and I felt like he was just rubbing things in my face. Later last night I sent him a text telling him how crappy that made me feel, but I'm not sure if he got it, b/c he never responded. Now I'm not sure what to do. We have some mutual friends at school so I don't want to start a full blow fight, but I also feel like he should know how much what he said hurt.
-Sarah

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