hello. I have a doubt. Me and my bf are together for 2 years now.We have had sort of sex loads of time as in he has inserted his dick into my vagina many times and given me fast shots.My doubt is have i lost my virginity? i think whn u loose your virginity you bleed right? but in my case i have never bled nor did it hurt me. Pls help as soon as possible.
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The definition of virginity can greatly differ from one person to the next although most people agree that one looses her virginity the first time she has intercourse. So, based on that definition (but it's alright if that's not your definition of virginity though), you would have lost your virginity and it doesn't matter much how deep your partner penetrated you. It also doesn't matter if you bled or not. It's worth remembering that first time sex doesn't always involve pain or bleeding, especially when you make sure you're ready, are relaxed, are going slowly, are using lube, are aroused before attempting intercourse, the works.
Understand that hymens rarely break all at once. They're a very thin, stretchy membrane, and they often wear away over time due to general activity, menstruation, etc. For many women, there won't be very much left of their hymen by the time the start having penetrative sex. And if they still have a hymen, it will continue to wear away gradually, rather than suddenly break during the first time.
So if a women bleeds during intercourse, that's not usually due to her hymen. It's much more likely to be an abrasion due to the woman not being relaxed and aroused enough, not using enough lube, etc.
If you want to know what's left of your hymen, you can grab a mirror and take a look, or ask your gyn during your next exam.
But as Cool already pointed out, the hymen is not an indication of virginity, and virginity itself is a pretty tricky concept.
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