I met this girl last year, and over time she has become my best friend. We can talk about anything and I can trust her. She's just really fun to be around and very trustworthy. However, she is really good friends with a group of girls that I'm not so close with. I have hung out with this group a couple times, but they are really not welcoming to other people joining in on their clique. The only times I did hang out with them was because my best friend invited me along. I would like to be part of the group because 1)Right now, I'm not in any clique, I have friends from all different "groups", and I miss having one gang of friends that can all hang out together on weekends, and 2) I want to be in the same circle of friends as my best friend. The group of girls I am talking about have been friends for a very long time. They all seem like nice people, but they are just not very welcoming to people joining into their little circle. I don't really know what to do, I don't want them to think I'm annoying or intruding. I've talked to my best friend about this, also. She said at first she didn't feel welcomed by them either. I'm thinking maybe slowly but surely they could warm up to me. Should I keep trying? Again, they seem like very fun and nice people, I just don't know if they will eventually accept me.
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Hey there- there's nothing wrong with being friendly. It's no fun to be uncomfortable in one place, however.
Have you considered trying to join some clubs or participate in activities outside of school? They're a great way to meet people you have common interests with and feel comfortable in- there's no reason why you have to limit yourself to one group of people- you can certainly have a best friend in one group and be part of others, too.
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