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ScUbAbOy
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Hey everyone,

I recently met a girl while camping and we became quite good friends. We have been texting each other pretty much everyday. The problem is that she lives about 3 hours drive away from me.

Everyone i talk to says that long distance relationships never work, but i want to make it work.

My question is what can i do to help make it work?

Help would be really appreciated, thanks,

ScUbAbOy

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Heather
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If you use the search tool and search "LDR" or "long-distance relationship," you'll find a LOT of threads which could probably help you out.

IMO, long-distance relationships can work out just fine, but they're often more of a challenge for younger people than for older people. Older people tend to like more time alone and a slower pace with relationships, and as well, being young often means having very limited income, or just none of your own. In some ways, LDRs get easier the more cash you have because you can visit one another a lot more often.

But a three-hour drive really isn't all THAT far. It's not down the block, sure, but it's also not a flight away, either, so you two making day trips to see each other every few weeks should be pretty easy to arrange.

Just make sure that your texting/phone use is covered in your folks' plan if you don't pay for your own bill. Many a teen LDR comes to a quick end the first time someone's parents get a phone bill with several hundred dollars in charges. [Smile]

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ScUbAbOy
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Thanks heaps for the advice!!

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jeffro
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Ill tell you my current story.
I met a girl on (the internet)
shes 18, as am i. we met about 20 months ago on this site and hav been talking on msn since. well she lives in melbourne, australia and i live in sydney, australia. about a 10 hour drive, 1 and a half hour flight ($250 return, or there abouts)
start of december she came up here with her mum to see some relatives and friends that she has in sydney. so we decided we would meet up one of the days she was here.
we met up on the friday night she was here, went to the movies.
we got on really well. saturday night she came out clubbing with me then stayed at my place.
sunday she had to back to her relatives, monday she stayed at my place again after we went out to the city for lunch. then on tuesday she went home.
we missed each other terribly. couldnt stop talking on msn, would never want to turn the webcams off.
few days later i changed my mobile to a plan with her on optus, now we have free calls to each other and we talk every night.
i went down to meet the rest of her family the weekend before christmas.
i got on very well with them, and i guess they liked me, cause they let her invite me down again for 12 days after christmas, so i was down there for new years and nearly half of january. we had a great time.
now its alot of msn and phone calls.
shes coming up here again in feb, and again at easter.
we hav been together nearly 2 months now and are doing great.
at first she didnt know how we would go, but its getting alot better.
old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
i believe in it. if you truely love each other then distance wont stop you. 3 hour drive is nothing for love.
persist with it mate. have faith and all will be fine if u are truely for one another!
good luck

Edited: Sorry, we cannot allow linking to outside dating sites or any other medium where users may contact each other privately.

[ 01-30-2008, 11:17 AM: Message edited by: *Lauren* ]

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lyricalboy
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i've been a situation with long distance man. i give you props if it does work out for you. but i think what screwed us both up in my previous relationship is that we both didn't trust each other. if you both really like each other, and the trust is there between the two of you, then it should work out. if you get the chance to go and see her, then make that trip. even if it's during the weekend or something, try to make an effort to see her. it might just make her day. i mean i live in hawaii and my ex-girlfriend was on another island. my trip was a 20 minute flight, but i didn't want to waste my money to buy a ticket to go to oahu. she didn't think i was trustable and that i never made an effort to see her. all girls are different, but i hope this helped.
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Stephanie_1
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I totally agree with jeffro,

I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 1/2 years now. My boyfriend and I have known each other since I was five (as he is my best friend’s brother) and he lives back home (at best over an hour thirty). I go to school and during the summer I work up in this area because it’s a great job for my major. I have barely any time for the work I need to do so we don’t see each other except for holidays off school.

The thing about living away is that the time you spend together can be that much more special. It’s great how we got into this comfort zone where sometimes we can sit and talk on the phone for hours at a time, but then when we’re together we spend a lot of time just cuddling and trying the “get lost in the other’s eyes.” Trust is the huge factor though. You have to love them enough to trust them when you’re far away. It’s one of those commercial type things “ gas … $30, Dinner $40, spending time with the one you love … proceless!”

Best of luck, I hope your relationship works out!

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corrie paige
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Im in a long distance relationship. About an hour and a half to 2 hours. I see him every weekend pretty much and sometimes we even get a chance during the week. I saw him just today in fact. If you really want it to...it will work. ^.^ GL
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3 and a half years ago, my fiance was touring in Florida when I met him. We kept in contact through the internet and the phone. A year and a half ago, we started dating and I only get to see him every few months. So if we can keep a relationship between Florida and England.... its definitely possible. But warning: it is very difficult because its hard not being with each other every day when you love each other. However, him and I are getting an apartment together in May. Good luck... hope our story gave you some inspiration.

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