They work differently depending on the people involved (much like monogamous relationships). I'd be happy to answer specific questions that you might have about mine, but my relationships aren't the same as other people's polyamorous relationships.
Polyamory.org and the newsgroup alt.polyamory (which can be found through Google Groups) are useful resources as well.
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I joined alt.polyamory not long ago and so far I've just been a reader, not a poster, so I can't give a good read on it. The group (and newsgroups in general) is a somewhat older crowd (I'm not quite 20) with different life experience than mine - so I'm mostly looking to learn.
I think that poly relationships are extremely viable relationships. For me, being poly as a personal identity means I am open to letting relationships develop naturally, instead of putting them in boxes (friend, sex buddy, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, spouse).
I also think that poly relationships, like monogamous relationships, are only successful when everyone involved has a good grasp on their own emotions and cannot support themselves and each other. I used to be in a long-term (you know, -ish) monogamous relationship. I find my poly lifestyle now much more stable than that relationship because I know who I am and what I want, and I am able to communicate that with my partners and help us all be ok with any situation, together.
I would suggest "The Ethic Slut" by Donna Easton and Catherine Liszt. It's written to explicate poly relationships, but I've found it very insightful for personal and monogamous interpersonal relating as well.
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