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Open to anyone: This is probably just an opinion question, but what is your difference in saying "I love him/her" compared to "I'm in love with him/her"?

To me, saying "I love him" doesn't have as much attachment and feeling as being "in love". I don't know why I thought about this. But I was writing in my LiveJournal and I started the paragraph "Oh I love him." but by the end I said "I'm in love with him." 'In love' just seems to have more feeling behind it, personally.

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I tend to think they're slightly different things.

I'm NOT saying that one is more meaningful than the other, just that they are different. To me, Loving somebody can be applied to all sorts of relationships. Like, I really, really really love my best friend. I'm not in love with him, (Gah. Thats a long story. But for the sake of this post, lets just say I'm not in love with him:() but my feelings towards him are just as strong as being in love suggests...

Does that make any sense?

Charles Darwin gave me clear-headed thought processing.

I'm undertaking Personality Evolution.

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I personally think of "in love" as being reserved for romantic relationships, specifically long-term ones. I don't think "love" is necessarily less than "in love", it's just different. I love my friends, my family, music, my cat, all kinds of things. I also love the girl I'm seeing. But when I think of "in love", what I think of is more an "I'm going to be with you for the rest of my life" feeling. Also, I feel like "in love" is something you are with another person. Like, the way I define it, unrequited love is not "in love", because "in love" means the other person feels the same way about you.

Amazing how a teensy two-letter word makes such a big difference, eh?

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I think loving someone is much more long term that being in love...
In my opinion, you can fall out of being in love, but if you love someone- genuinely care about them, you will love them forever...
I think in a relationship, for it to last forever, you have to not only be in love, but you have to love your partner-- One may be more romantic, but one is much more neccesary--- everyone needs to be loved by someone.

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weirdly, something along these lines came up in one of the articles i read for religion class this semester:

"i am in love" means "i want me to be happy"; "i love" means "i want to make you happy."

...not sure where i stand on that right now, but i thought it was an interesting delineation.

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Hmm personally I think "I love" and "I'm in love" are different things. To me saying "I love you" is more of a broad specific term, like saying I love my friends and my family. Where as if I told someone "I'm in love with you" is like telling them they are truly 100% special to me and I am absolutely devoted to them (this would prolly be in a relationship). Like when people say "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" I think being in love is more deep than just loving someone.

Well thats just what I think anyway.

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