So, a lot of the topics we get in Relationships deal with romantic partnerships, and we've definitely all seen the topics about what to do when you're moving away from a significant other, what to do in long distant relationships, etc. (and heck, we've maybe even lived them).
But what about friends? What about best friends? This is the sort of thing that happens to people so, so often - especially as we reach the age where people are going away to various colleges or moving along after high school.
One of my best friends (and a bit sadly, one of my few and closest friends here in Denver) moved to another state yesterday, and there's a chance I won't see him for up to 6 months from now - it's all up in the air and he ended up leaving a lot sooner than he was originally supposed to.
So, I have some questions for everyone -
What do you do when a friend moves away or you move away from a friend?
What, to you, may feel different or cause you to react differently when it's a friend moving/you're moving from, than moving from a significant other?
Any of you with friends who have moved, or you've moved from? What do you do to keep in touch? Do you get to still visit (home from college, road trips, etc.)? How do you feel the relationship has changed, and how does it feel when you do get to see each other after awhile?
-------------------- Jean aka dailicious Scarleteen Volunteer Love us? Want to keep us in your lives and hearts? Give what you can! Posts: 3382 | From: Denver, Colorado | Registered: Mar 2005
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Story of my life. I've made three significant moves, all of them to a different country. Along with me always leaving my friends behind, this also meant that I spent a lot of time at internatinal schools, were few kids stay longer than three years before moving elsewhere, so I've also been left behind a lot.
I'm a very big letter-writer and a very open, communicative person, so I've never had a problem staying in touch. Thanks to MSN, I still regularly talk with my best friends from freshmean year of high school and I'm in more or less sporadic contact with a lot of other friends.
I visit my high school friends once a year (even now, nearly 7 years after leaving), even though it means flying across an ocean, and we always have a blast when I'm there. I get to hang out with the entire clique, including some people who don't do e-mail and who I literally don't see or hear from for the entire year in between, and every time it still feels like I never left.
Aside from them, there's a friend I only got to spend one year with before she left, but she still lives reasonably close enough for us to have regular one-hour-phone calls. And since she now lives in the same country as my parents, I'm in her area two or three times a year, anyway, and we always make it a point to have a girls night out when I'm there.
I think the biggest thing that changes is that you don't have those moments of randomly hanging out for the fun of it. When you meet, there is all this anticipation, and you've got this mental list of things you want to catch up on, and there is never enough time.
-------------------- Johanna Scarleteen Volunteer
"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 9192 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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