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poserxmeetsxme
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I've never really been given a compliment from a guy before, except for my friends, so I'm not really sure how to take it. My boyfriend will say stuff like "I love your eyes" or "You're so pretty", and I always say "Thanks" or "You too" or something to that effect. I feel bad, just saying "Thanks".

It might be a self-conscious issue. I don't feel that I deserve all these compliments. I don't mind them, I just don't know how to respond.

Any ideas? Or help or anything? Thanks.

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RandomGuy09
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I think this sort of depends on whether or not you actually appreciate the compliment. Even if you don't feel you deserve them, do you still like hearing them? If so, I don't think that "Thanks" (with a smile) is such a bad response... at least, I personally have never minded it. What I don't like is when she says she doesn't deserve them, because it's sort of low self-confidence. Other things you could do are show a gentle sign of affection that you appreciate it such as a light touch, smile, the purr-noise that some girls make when they hear something sweet (I don't think I can describe it any better than that!), etc. Or, be playful with it - "Yeah, you're right, I am beautiful" in a teasing way. Whatever best matches your personality type, I guess.
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poserxmeetsxme
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Good suggestion. Thanks. Ya, he hates the whole 'low self confidence' thing too.

By the way, I just spent two minutes trying to imitate that purr-noise. HAHA.

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RandomGuy09
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Yeah, I'm sure I didn't describe it very well! Purr makes it sound like something a cat makes... what I was thinking of was like the "awww" as in "awww, that's sweet," but done with the lips closed and from the back of the throat. If anyone has any idea what to call that sound... it would be appreciated.

Oh well, whatever works! Best of luck!

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Frogmite
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It's like an "mmmm"-ing sound, with an upward inflection.

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RandomGuy09
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Yeah, that's exactly it!!

The upward inflection is key, methinks.

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