What is the least painful way in which to fall out of love with someone?
I'm in love and while our friendship has strengthened upon her learning of my true feelings, I'm still worried. I could go ahead and date her but that would be a risk. If things stay as they are I feel like I have to fight my desires when I'm with her and I know that's not healthy. For the sake of my health and more importantly our friendship I really need to fall out of love with her. How can I do this without hurting her and only minimally hurting myself?
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Man this is a heck of a question my friend. I really feel for you because that situation is sooo difficult. Fighting being in love is kind of like fighting hunger, you just can't get rid of it with the flip of a switch. Do you feel that it's a risk to your friendship if you date her? This post really got close to me when i read it because when i was about 15 there was this girl that i was in love with, i didn't persue her though because i didn't want to chance ruining our friendship. I found out after i moved 3 states away that she had liked me all along. I really ended up regretting that i never saw what could have been. I know you may feel differently and thats fine but just think about it long and hard because you might end up really regretting it later.
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You can't force yourself to stop caring for someone. It doesn't really work that way.
It sounds as though she already knows how you feel. Have you talked to her about what you're going through? As your friend, she might be able to offer a perspective, if she is comfortable discussing it with you.
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