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Neophyte
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Okay,same boy,Patrik.
Yeah his ex girlfriend is all of a sudden trying to get him back,
which is a pretty stupid idea on her behalf considering that he doesn't like her one bit,and thinks she is a conceited,selfish bxtch.
Not even kidding.

Well I like him,a lot more than I believe she says she likes him,and he hates her and likes me...

Does anybody think there's gonna be a chance between them again?
I need some help,again.

Thankyou soooosooosoooooo much!!

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Heather
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Please, PLEASE don't call women bitches here, okay? This isn't a place for people to slag on other people: it's not conducive to the kind of community we're got and like to cultivate.

We're not psychic, honey, and we don't even know these people, so we've really just got no way of predicting if the guy you like is going to go out with his ex again. And probably, you can't, either.

But what I can say is that pitting yourself in a competition with other people for partners pretty much never results in behing happy or in healthy relationships, so you're most likely best exempting yourself from that kind of drama or headspace.

Rather than getting yourself all tied up in hating on this girl, I'd suggest you just let it be. If you and he are pursuing a relationship, then you puruse that, and trust him to work out whatever he needs to with her, whether that be asking her to leave him be, what have you. His relationship with his ex is his thing to deal with, not yours.

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(Sorry about the cursing.)

And yeah,you're 110% correct.
Thanks

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Heather
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It's not about the cursing (at home, I confess to often talking like a sailor, so). Just for future reference, it's about the dissing, so that's the thing to avoid.

It's one thing to critique someone's actions constructively (or even just to vent about them), but it's another to name-call or enforce gender stereotyping and the lot.

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totally understandable
i just stepped out of line
i do that when i get really really mad or pissed off

sorry about that though

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Heather
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Not a problem.

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muisy
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Not that this helps you at all, but the answer to whether they get back together is either they do or they don't. Sometimes people say things they don't mean to try to avoid getting hurt or like "it's not real if i don't say it" type of thing. I agree though, it's not exactly your place to get involved in with their business, but if you like him, maybe you could chose to tell him?
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