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His_Lil_Angel
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my mate text me earlia saying the way iv been 'going on' in the past year is appaling. shes supposed to be my best mate. and she told me i needed to fix up. i told her im trying but she called me a slag and a hoe and calling me dirty and that i need respect for myself which i do have.
the basic situation is i have a boyf/ex in prison. but iv been seeing boys since hes been in there even though iv been waiting for him. i know its wrong but sometimes i just cant help it. yes iv slept with other boys about 2.
ive tryed to stop and change and iv told her that but she wont believe me. she started up some long argument about it and i dont know what she wants me to say. iv asked her but she goes off on something else. i am trying to change i want to change, so its not like im just saying it to keep her happy. but she still doesnt understand. she tells me i never learn from my mistake but i do. thats why i want to change.
this girl is supposed to be my best mate and she says shes looking out for me. i accept that and what she says i take into account of course.
but i just dont know what she wants me to say?!
any body help me on this situation. please.

[ 05-19-2007, 04:30 PM: Message edited by: His_Lil_Angel ]

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faifai
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First off, I'm not sure that anyone who calls you a slag and a ho is your friend or has your best interests at heart. Saying such hurtful things to someone is not the best way to show that one cares.

Secondly, you should decide whether you want the person in prison to be your boyfriend or your ex, and act accordingly. If you had an agreement of being monogamous, you really can't be off seeing other people when you're supposed to be waiting for him, it's just not fair to either of you. If you want the relationship with him, it'd be a good idea to tell him that you've seen other people but want things to work out.

However, if you've come to realize that you don't want to be waiting for him while he's in prison, or that you simply don't want a relationship anymore, that's fine too. You should tell him what you feel regardless of whether you want to continue the romantic relationship or not.

Third, while your friend may be worried about you, your romantic relationships with others isn't really any of her business. Perhaps she's looking out for you and is worried that you're not treating yourself with as much respect as you should be, but her being condescending and calling you names isn't showing much respect for you either.

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