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In Love With My Baby
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What is the age of consent in Iowa?
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The age of consent in Iowa is 14 for males and 16 for females. [Smile]

http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm

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Yasmin
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I wonder why the ages aren't the same? Think it's the same old double standard that boys are ready for sex earlier than girls?

And who exactly gets to decide the ages of consent? And on what basis do they do it on?

Also, have any ages of consent changed, or have they always been the way they are now?

[ 05-16-2007, 02:13 AM: Message edited by: Yasmin ]

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You guessed it. AOC laws exist for the proposed protection of minors, who may not have the maturity or life experience to deal with the consequences of sexual activity. Like any law, it changes by region and country according to social, religious, and moral values particular to the area. For example, you'll notice there that the AOC varies in some places depending on the type of intercourse had, and some are illegal altogether.

It is a common assumption that males are ready for sexual activity at a younger age; on the flip-side, legislators may assume that since a good majority of sexual consequences lay on the shoulders of the female (higher risk of obtaining infections, pregnancy), they should be protected from those consequences until older and, supposedly, better prepared.

[ 05-16-2007, 02:42 AM: Message edited by: Miss Lauren ]

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Thanks a bunch! Yay Im of age hahah!!! Thanks again!
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babygurl2285
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What's the age of consent for Tennessee???

My bf sayd he thinks it's 18 but we hav no idea. He's 19 so I'm guessin' he's old nuff but i'm 14 so idk

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Your boyfriend is right, the AoC in Tennessee is 18. That means he could be charged with statuatory rape if you two had sex.

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Johanna
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babygurl2285
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Thanx! 1 more question. if i agree to have sex, why can he get in trouble?

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Because, under the law, you are not old enough to give informed consent. That is the point of having this law: to protect children/teens from being exploited by an older partner.

So, even if you had perfectly consentual sex, if someone reported your boyfriend, he could get into a lot of trouble.

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Thanx 4 answerin!!~Kelsey~

[ 05-20-2007, 02:29 PM: Message edited by: babygurl2285 ]

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babygurl - I saw your previous reply and while I am glad that you removed it (discussing illegal activity on ST is not okay per our Guidelines), I do want to point out one thing: worst case scenario, your boyfriend could get stuck having 'sex offender' in his record, which would make things really tough for him.

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well it's not tell anyone or wait 4 years. i'd rather not tell anyone. by the time 4 years is up, we won't be together anymore.

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babygurl,
Just because you don't tell anyone doesn't mean that no one will find out. If you really care about him then you won't risk putting him in danger by having sex. As I hear, Tennessee has really strict laws about sex offenders too so that title would follow him around everywhere and make it pretty difficult for him to get a job or live any kind of normal life. That's very unfair to him. And you might not care since nothing will happen to you, but could you really live with yourself knowing that you contributed to ruining his life?

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He wants to have sex just as much, if not more than, I do.

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I'm asking myself some questions here so can I ask you to clarify those things ?

by the time 4 years is up, we won't be together anymore.

Why ?

He wants to have sex just as much, if not more than, I do.

Do YOU really want to have sex with him and are you ready for that ? Or is there pressure for you to have sex ?

[ 05-20-2007, 06:21 PM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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"by the time 4 years is up, we won't be together anymore.

Why ? "

we wont be together because he has to go to college. he's leavin next year.

"He wants to have sex just as much, if not more than, I do.

Do YOU really want to have sex with him and are you ready for that ? Or is there pressure for you to have sex ?"

yes i do, i care about him more than anyone else i've ever dated. he's never pressured me to have sex with him and i doubt he ever would.

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So...you care about him a lot, but you're willing to put him in this position? Frankly, you're playing with legal fire.

If he is reported, and if he is convicted, he'll have a sex offender tag for life. This will not go away, and will seriously impede his chances of doing anything he may want to do, including jobs, loans, schools, etc. People do not take kindly to a sex offender title, even if it was consensual: he's still engaging in sexual activities with someone he knows is a minor.

And really? The maturity difference between a 14 year old and an 18-going-on-19 year old is pretty big. The outlook on life is totally different, regardless of how mature you might be. This is not any sort of insult directed at you, mind you, but an observation based on a couple years of experience. I'd question why he's not pursing partners closer to his own age, and closer to his own life experience, and why he's choosing to pursue someone who is clearly a minor when he's a legal adult.

Babygurl, he doing anything with save for hugging, holding your hand, and kissing you is illegal. Since scarleteen does not endorse illegal behavior or discussions about it, we can't really go any further. What your asking about is against the law with very real legal repercussions. This is one thing that must be considered when you're deciding to become sexually active: can you deal with ALL the consequences, not just the immediate ones? Can you care for yourself if you get an STI, get pregnant, or need the pill, EC, or he ends up in jail? Can you, at fourteen, cover all of your safer sex needs? Just think about it for a bit.

That said, I'm going to close this topic. If you have more questions regarding this, please feel free to e-mail us at boards @ scarleteen.com

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