I'm sorry if this is the wrong forum to post this, but here goes: a girl at my school who in all honesty acts and dresses like a complete (self-described) slut starts talking to me about a lot of really intense stuff that she says she tells almost no one. Stuff about how much she really doesn't want to be seen as a sex object, doesn't want to be a slut, but is addicted to meaningless hookups as they distract her from her emotional problems, and how she likes to be hurt and have other people completely in control of her, wants to get raped, cuts herself, doesn't know how to act around people unless she's hooking up with them, she traces a lot of this back to her father hitting her ALOT as a kid - like neighbors-calling-the-police abuse... (she still lives with him).
I talked to her for hours listening to her story and trying to think of the best way to help her, and ended up offering to basically be her friend and be there for her, which I hope is something, but the bottom line is that she needs therapy and needs professional help soon and clearly I can't give that to her. When I brought this up, however, she was completely unreceptive to the idea. "Don't tell me I need help," she said. Please help me figure out how to convince her to seek out therapy, if it's even possible to give advice with a situation like this. Naturally, I'm really worried about her- I'm graduating in a few weeks and I want to know she has help. Ideas?
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