I have this bi friend from New York who I chat a lot with, we discuss and talk about plenty of things together, and like she's amazing and respectful in most aspects, well......except when it comes to boys and my history...
She knows my history and all but she just don't get why I haven't done it yet you know and she always brings up the subject. Like one thing she tells me often is : ''Come on. Why don't you do it ? Life is short. Go to a bar or something and I'm sure every guy there would like to have sex with you and would ever pay and do big things for it. ''or something like '' Why didn't you have sex with the last few guys you dated ? It could have been so good and they could have give you lots of tips about sex. And your first time would have been great caused the man would have known what to do. ''
It's like she finds it funny. Every other talk about other subjects is great except this one where I think she doesn't even make sense. She doesn't seem to get me. She thinks I'm missing out on a lot of things by not having had intercourse yet which is something I don't entirely agree with.
It's something she brings up often. And it makes me feel really uncomfortable and bad and well different from others. I've told her that before at least once but she doesn't really seem to understand. There's like no point in arguing with her about that. It's like we've got two different points of view.
Plus, she's told me she had a crush on me lately which seems a bit weird here and uncalled for after what she says.
So I'm wondering what would you do if you had a friend giving you comments like that ? How can I adress that with her yet another time ?
Sometimes i think there are just some topics you really cannot discuss with some people.
For one, i think it is absolutley NONE of her business who you decide to have sex with, and what your reasons are. You do not have to answer to her. If you're uncomfortable discussing it w/ her, say so, and end the conversation there, if you have to. If she continues trying to discuss things that make you so uncomfortable after having made this clear to her, i would question what you see in this friendship and if it's really there at all.
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