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There is this guy in my grade, and I'm attracted to him even though I've never had a real conversation with him. Last year I had a class with him, and I may have said a few words to him but that's it. I would like to get to know him and talk to him, but for one thing I'm really shy. Also, whenever I do see him in the hallway (I have no classes with him this year), he is with a bunch of his guy friends. I'm pretty convinced that it's hopeless, but I would appreciate any advice on how to just randomly approach him and talk to him without scaring him off. Is it a waste of my time to try and pursue him?
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It's not hopeless! I suggest just trying to make a bit of eye contact and saying "hi" then leaving it at that. It's quite a fun way to do it, plants a seed, and it's a little step, which is cool for someone who's shy. And just keep making an effort to just acknowledge him but not jump in and try to have a full conversation. Soon enough he might be wanting to know more about this girl that seems to appreciate him, and you could find him coming over to talk to you.

(You can tell I enjoy this kind of stuff!)

You could do stuff like look for mutual friends of yours, and see if you could end up just "being" at a situation where he "happens" to be there.

Or take up one of his hobbies, and end up meeting him like that.

But remember it's not hopeless, and not a waste of time at all! And I don't know him but it's unlikely that he'll be scared off by a friendly young lady who's just saying hello.

[ 02-18-2007, 09:46 AM: Message edited by: PenguinBoy ]

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Yeah, as Mr Joe Average *literally*, if you just say hi occasionally and maybe ask for his number/MSN address etc through a mutual friend (or face to face with him), he won't mind at all.
Or if there isn't a mutual friend, if you have MySpace you can track him down using either the Search function or the Trail (from you to him, that is he's probably the friend of a friend of a friend).

In a strange room, before you are emptied for sleep, what are you. And when you are filled with sleep you never were. I dont know what I am. I dont know if I am or not... how often have I lain beneath rain on a strange roof, thinking of home.

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