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Dannie
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I was recently releashed from a long term relationship(he broke up with me), well i guess that was about a month or two ago, and i've become attached to another boy, a good friend of mine. We've been 'talking' as my friends call it and he understands that I'm not ready for a relationship yet because of the bad terms my ex and i left on. He respects my views and hasn't pressured me into anything. In fact, we were out the other night, and when he went to say good night he asked to kiss me on the cheek. Butterflys instantly filled me, and i couldn't believe how sweet he was being about all of my new found cautions. I declined, feeling to emotionally out of wack to begin a physical relationship, and later upon thinking back to the moment, realized i turned him away because i want every thing to be perfect with my next relationship, even though i know its impossible. I'm just wondering if i'm being unreasonable with myself because i've gone from being sexually active to refusing a simple kiss on the cheek.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with protecting yourself as you are. You're not completely protecting yourself -- it sounds like you're still going out and having fun with this guy. There's never any problem with taking things slowly, or at a pace that you're comfortable with.

Though, have you sat and thought about if you're just rebounding off of this guy or not? Sometimes that happens when you get out of relationships, especially long ones.

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i dont think she on the rebound, if she were she wouldn't of turned down that guy. Unfortunately, for awhile after my break up, i was rebounding, or trying to at least. i was always being really friendly to any guy that said hi.

And as for you being "over protective" i dont think thats happening...

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I don't feel like jay is a rebound, I think i really am feeling for him, and not for my own needs right now, but in the back of my mind i'm scared he might be, and i'm trying to avoid breakign his heart if it turns into nothing
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quote:
Originally posted by Dannie:
... i'm scared he might be,

Might... like you? thats a safe bet in my book, but i dont think you should be concerned. If /your/ not ready for another bf right now, then dont let yourself have one until you are ready. break ups are hard, and you deserve time to get over it.

And if your scared of it turning into nothing, then again just wait. Time is wonderful thing in situations like this.

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