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Namida
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I have a girlfriend a year older than me making her 17 and THAT means she finishes school for ever (no univesity like me) in 3 weeks. I'm worried about what will happen to us then, i know she is too. please help. PS after 3 monthes of goin out she dumped me, then a month later she said she wanted me back and told me (finally) the real reason she dumped me (she thought she was starting 2 like another guy but she realised she didn't and she made a mistake dumpin me) take that into consideration too. thanks

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Ecofem
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Plant, your concerns are valid; major transitions can and do influence relationships. But they're no guarantee that they'll change for better or for worse or even at all.

I'd recommend you two talk about your feelings on this; I take it that you want to stay together, but you're not sure what your girlfriend wants? You can talk about where you see your life (and the relationship going), what you both would want (and not want), etc. However, "worrying" doesn't really help; if anything, it makes things more complicated.

Even with discussion, it's then about seeing how things turn out. We usually want our relationships to stay strong and happy, but we also have to work with what comes. How are you feeling in the relationship-- are you happy in it/with her, or do you feel the previous break-up caused an uncomfortable rift? How is your life outside the relationship: friends, school, hobbies, etc.?

Here are some links from the Relationships FAQ list:
College & Relationships
http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/000580.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/001471.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/001151.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/000830.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/000877.html

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Namida
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We've talked a little and it is wat she wants, but she's worried i'll find someone else (i'm worried bout the same thing). Feelings in the relationship (my side anyway) are all good, except she won't let me hold her hand or anythin while people we kno are around and i barely get to see her outside of skool because her parents are strict. She's really insecure and askes me if i secretly like 1 of her friends every week. i think she feels bad about the previous break up but i don't blame her or anything

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And still the beds are burning, burning in our sleep.
Take me away from everything I see.

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