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kathryn888
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Hi guys,
I know there's not much that Scarleteen can do for this problem, but if anyone wants to share their feelings I'd really appreciate some feedback! I've been single for over a year, with some random (and safe!)one night stands thrown in there every once and a while. Those experiences were good and exciting because they showed me that I have sex appeal (at least when everyone involved is drunk.) I have no guilt and I know I'm not a slut. There's no such thing as a slut! I just enjoy the thrill of sex with strangers. But I know that I would enjoy a relationship so much more! I have so much love to give. Right now I spend my time with family, friends, volunteering, and school work (college) but I feel like I could be such a great girlfriend, too. My heart is about to overflow with love and I don't want to spill a drop. I know deep in my heart that the right guy will come along and realize how amazing I am...but WHEN?! Sometimes I yearn to wake up beside someone in the morning and my eyes actually well up. I want to LOVE and BE LOVED. Help? Comments? Thanks.

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Ecofem
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Your wanting a relationship very understandable. You're doing all the "right" things... a relationship will come along when it does. Like would you want to get into a relationship with someone not-so-great just for the sake of being in a relationship? I'm guessing not.

Take all the love you're feeling and keep showing it to your friends, family and those dogs at the shelter. (I mean this for real.) Maybe analyze your current relationships and activities to prioritize the most rewarding ones. Yeah, a relationship that combines great friendship and sex can seem ideal, but we just have to see what comes along.

Keep up with the one night stands as long as they keep feeling positive. [Smile] (Although I'd take a look at alcohol's role if you truly think that's what it takes for you to seem attractive: definitely not true!!)

I like to think of that old Smiths' song, "How soon is now?" Well, right now would be great, but now just isn't the time.

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kathryn888
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Oh thanks so much for your reply! I guess I'll just have to keep myself occupied with life for the time being. Which is pretty awesome right now. I have a great family, fantastic friends, and a good head on my shoulders. I'm leading a week long volunteering trip to Bronx, NY. And I hang out/mentor kids at an after school program in the city nearby. I don't do anything at an animal shelter right now, hehe. Maybe I'll meet my Prince Charming while I'm walking the dogs!

I know I'm a great catch, on the inside and out, drunk or sober. It's just that these sexcapades have always happened when I'm drunk. (But not blacked out or anything like that!)

Another reason this is bugging me is because my ex bf has a new girl. I'm totally over him, but I feel like I can't really, really, REALLY get over him until I fall for someone new, too. It'll happen when the time is right...

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