i have this boyfriend, and everything just seems so perfect. we never have serious fights, there are no issues in our relationship, we have amazing communication and can talk about anything, we always talk through problems we have with each other and compromise, we love being around each other, the sex life is great, etc, etc. in other words, our relationship seems almost perfect. i really can't picture myself with anyone else. i can't even imagine why i'd ever want to break up with him. hes just right for me in every way. i've had other boyfriends, and hes had other girlfriends, but nothing EVER felt this right/good for either of us. i'm just wondering.. am i being naive? do all good things like this end in a few months or years? i'm only 17, but i would quite honestly move in with him and marry him in a few years. is it wrong/stupid for me to hope that things work out that far into the future? i would talk to him about this, but i feel it is too soon to bring it up. am i setting myself up for disappointment? btw, i'm 17 and hes 19. i'm so happy with him and everything is so good right now and has been since i met him - but i sometimes stop and think, "be careful, because this won't last forever, nothing does. look at all these seemingly "perfect" couples who end in heartbreak, who promised they'd be together forever but broke up three months later." i dunno. i'm confused. should i hold myself back, or just let myself be madly in love with him and let myself hope for the future?
Posts: 24 | From: canada | Registered: Aug 2006
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There's nothing wrong with being in love. It's an awesome feeling to have, and it feels great while it lasts.
While it's good that you're so happy in your current relationship, you DO have to keep in mind that love changes over time. Lots of people find that they don't stay romantically in love as time passes; couples who have been together for a very long time love each other much differently than a young teen couple.
It's good that you realize that not everything lasts forever, too. But that's no reason to think doom and gloom thoughts, either.
The best advice I can give is to enjoy your relationship in the-here-and-now; the future is just that, and will be revealed in time. Be as independant as possible; most of your dreams and goals need to be about YOU, not you and him as an item.
Posts: 4636 | From: USA/Northern Europe | Registered: Oct 2005
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jeeblebrox, I know how you feel. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years, and at one point, I too did not think I could be with anyone else. We're still together, but we will seperate next summer when my boyfriend goes off to college. We care about eachother, but you've got to be realistic about the whole thing.
Just enjoy what you have now, and if it lasts, than great! If it doesn't, than it doesn't.
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