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crazycoolk
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me and i guy have been going out and he told me he loved and i love him but then we want to keep or relationship quiet so that no one can be on our cases all the time now he's telling me that we should break up cause his parents is getting unto us i don't want to do it . now he's telling me that he loves me and he never wants to leave me but i don't want my parents to find out i already have a bad relationship with my family what should i do
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Gumdrop Girl
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if conditions in your life right now are really bad for having a relationship, then don't have one. relationships take a lot of itme and investment, and if you can't commit that kind of attention to it, then you're better off being single till the time is right. while you may love each other, being together just isn't going to be good for either of you. let it go.

ps, i'd feel really crappy if my partner thought i wasn't good enough to date publicly.

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crazycoolk
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ok but i still want to stay with him and only certain people know about us cause we feel its not their business . omg i feel crappy now
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Mathilde
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quote:
ps, i'd feel really crappy if my partner thought i wasn't good enough to date publicly.
I know. Isn't that just a self-esteem blow? It would be for me. In most cases, it would be good for the parents to know if you're in a relationship. Most of the time, when a parent gets on your case about something, they're doing it for a reason. And the reason is not to hurt you, it's to help you.

I agree with GumdropGirl. If you just don't think you can handle a relationship at this point, then perhaps the two of you could just break it off for a while atleast. As GG said, a prelationship takes work, and if you can't commit your time to one right now, then you might want to wait for a better time. You might be better of that way -- both you and him. [Smile]

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