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His_Lil_Angel
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Ok.. well i have recenty startd seeing someone and my parents know about him.. and are fine with the age difference (im 15 & hes 19) but the one thing they dont know about him is that hes been in prison and is on 'tag'.. i know it isnt really a big thing and people have said that to me but i think they have a right to know.. my parents are very judging and dissaprove of people who they think will make a bad influence on me.. do you think i should tell them? can anyone help me on how to tell them? any help is mostly appreciated..
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If by 'on tag' you mean that he's on parole, then that is a big deal. Do you know what he was in for? How do you feel about that? How does he feel about what he's done?

Also, it doesn't really matter if your parents are fine with the age difference. The AOC in the UK is 16 (17 in Northern Ireland), so if you're engaging in sexual activity, that's illegal.

[ 05-31-2006, 03:24 PM: Message edited by: September ]

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Johanna
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His_Lil_Angel
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by being on tag i mean he has to be in his house between certain times (7:15am - 19:15pm) i know what he was in for yes and it doesn't bother me. hes trying to stay out of trouble now.
so how do you think i should tell them? and do you think that i should ?

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September
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Honesty is always the better policy, and in this case especially (also considering that you're still a minor) it would probably wise for your parents to know what's going on.

How you tell them is up to you and depends on how you think they'll take it. Maybe you'll want to start with the parent who's more likely to be understanding, or you'll just sit them both down and talk to them about it.

Do be prepared for your parents to not take this very well. A big age gap is one thing, a boyfriend who's been to jail quite another. Have your parents met your boyfriend? You might want to bring him in so they can see for themselves what kind of a person he is.

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Johanna
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