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Summertime455
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I have been dating a guy i met for about a week now, and he seems like a great guy. He has confided in me that he has had sex with two girls, and has had about 5 girlfriends, which kind of scares or intimidates me. I myself have had one serious boyfriend, and have kissed like two guys. Obviously he is more experienced than me, and he knows that. I do not have a problem doing stuff with him, but i would have to be with him for a while. We have kissed, like a peck good bye and such, but not much else. I have made out with a guy before, but i am afraid he is going to think i am a bad kisser because he has kissed soo many guys. Are my conserns stupid? I tend to be insecure sometimes, so this is probably where it is coming from. Or should i just go for it, and hope for the best? And advice would be greatly appriciated!
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*meg*
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Huni, if this guy cares about you at all, he'l like whatever you have to give. Dont be worried about not being experienced enough for him, wait until you totally trust him before doing anything, because then you will know how much you like each other.
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greenapp1es
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My boyfriend has had many, many more than 5 girlfriends, whereas he was my first boyfriend and first kiss. He has no problems whatsoever with the way I kiss him. As *meg* said, if he cares about you everything will be fine...just relax and enjoy it. Have him communicate with you about what he likes and let him know what you respond to...and everything will be fine.

That said, if you aren't comfortable with kissing at this point of time, don't rush yourself. Just keep at a pace that is right for you

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zeta
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I think that "experience" doesn't help one iota. Each partner is always different, knowing what one likes won't help you much with another. So as far as you two together go, he's just as much of a newbie as you are.

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likewhoa19
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actually, if you've never been sexually active, it really is a novel experience and gets less awkward over time. but yes, i agree with greenapples, make sure you go at a pace that feels good to you, b/c if ever something feels awkward with the amount of practice you have, going farther will probably just be worse. and yes, all partners are different, so he's certainly not necessarily a whiz on what will work for you either.

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Summertime455
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I really appreciate your advice guys!
Thanks [Smile]
~Summertime

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