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i no its always a good idea to return the favour, and i want to but im always worried if im not doing it for her, you know i always wonder is she faking?

any tips for an almost certain way to return the favour?

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We can't give technique advce here, but we can tell you to just experiment with what feels good. Talk to your partner, make sure she is enjoying it. People are different and therefore enjoy different things.
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actually, it's NOT always a good idea to "return the favor." That breeds and attitude that we're all doing something in order to get somethingi n return. That's not cool. If a person simply isn't ready or interested in doing a particular "favor", then leave them be.It's not okay to obligate a person to do something sexual when they're not into it. That's pressure, coercion if it's worse than that. RAPE or assault in the worst situations.

Trust your partner not to fake it, and ASK her if there's something she likes. Be open to communicating. The rest is up to you both.

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