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mapquest
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most people in the world seem completely worthless and I don't really trust anyone anymore because I can't seem to get a single friend
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Karybu
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An attitude like that isn't going to net you many friends, I'm afraid.

Are you in high school? College? Have you tried joining a club, or doing volunteer work, things like that? Starting a new activity is usually a great way to meet people.

(Nifty handle, btw. [Smile] )

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mapquest
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I'm in college, well
I was in college for 1 quarter, then I dropped out and came back home because I hated all the fake people in college. I've been out this whole quarter staying at my mom's house being bored and in 2 weeks I'm starting spring quarter at the UC here.

All the true people I used to know are not true anymore..I just don't understand it - I don't know how to break through to them so it can be true like old times.

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Ecofem
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Well, living at home while being bored and bumming around can really wear you down, too. Glad to hear you're trying college again, especially if it was just the people who you weren't into.

So you tried a college and found it wasn't for you. Perhaps if you stayed longer, you'd meet people more like you, but leaving for a better match was also a solution.

We change over time and, just as some friendships grow closer, others grow apart. The high school-college gap is a major time for this. Maybe they are just looking for a new life there, or maybe you guys didn't actually have so much in common. Not that you can't appreciate the friendship you had before, but it has changed. It might not be like "old times" in terms of the people, but the same feeling of friendship will be there... just with different people and, chances are, even better.

Attitude is so important: being open to knowing new people is crucial, even for a short chat or an invitation to hang out to a potential friendship. Take classes you are interested in; try out and join a bunch of clubs you are interested in, and stick with those with "real" people.

Easier said than done, but your new mantra could be: "Here's a new chance, I'm going to meet some interesting new people and have fun." OK, there'll be ups and downs, and faking a positive attitude may sound stupid, but in this situation it can help until you feel happy about things for real. I'm a big believer in the self-fulfilling prophecy: You believe in something and it happens because you believe in it so much that your actions make it happen.

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How to Approach People/Meeting People
http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/000728.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/001665.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/000774.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/001643.html

which UC btw, California or Colorado? as for Uni. of California, each campus has a different vibe. I gotta say, they always kept it real up in Berkeley. gawd help you if you're at UCI or something, though.

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PinkPenguin06
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Wow, mapquest, I know how you feel... it can feel like your surrounded by phonies a lot of the time (as in any book by Salinger). However it may be more the situation that is making you feel like this... its really tough trying to find your niche in a completely new environment, and usually takes time. I would say I still haven't found my niche in my high school, as environments like that can be so limiting. But the odds are, if you join some clubs that interest you, you'll find people that are like you, as they are interested in the same sort of things. Then there could be at least some bond. More likely people aren't as fake as you think; they are simply true in their own fashion.
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