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Kristin_0608
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Hey everyone I guess I can start out by stating I have never been in love before and nobody has ever loved me before so well I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months now and I have no idea why he is still with me. This is my longest relationship I have had for almost 2 years now. I'm so confused cause I have no idea why he wants to be with me cause I always thought of myself as someone whom nobody could love I don't have many interesting features let alone hobbies or common interests. Everything I like he likes though. We like doing all the same hobbies and everything, and I'm not used to having this much in common with someone before.
I just don't understand how he can like me this much because I guess everyone at my school growing up thought I was ugly and stupid and made fun of me and I was very shy until about 8th grade when I became loud and obnoxious I guess and I started getting along withe veryone. But I guess i'm just wondering how he could like me this much I've never felt this way before torwards any of my boyfriends.

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kitka
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i feel the same way a lot of times, in terms of myself and the guys I've been in relationships with.

if he's with you it means he likes you and wants to be with you. keep reminding yourself of that... it should help put some of your fears to rest. and you need to concentrate on feeling better about yourself too; then it won't be difficult to understand why he's with you.

it seems like you've had low self esteem for a fairly long time? you might want to look into counseling. i can tell you from personal experience that talking to someone about your worries can really help you feel better.

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Mathilde
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Don't worry! He's obviously into you and your personality. I wouldn't worry if I was you. I was worried at first when I met my boyfriend (he's my first). I didn't think that anyone could possibly be attracted to me, but my bf has really helped me to appreciate my own attributes (we've been going steady for about a year and five months now); it can last, I tell you. Don't wonder why, just go with it! He MUST see something in you, and just appreciate that. [Big Grin] You've obviously got something that he admires, and he must like you as a person, too.

As they say, just "go with the flow." (Okay, that was lame, but hey. [Wink] )

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I'd just like to chime in that I suffered very similarly through middle/high school with being unpopular and having low self-esteem. I encourage you to work on how you feel about yourself and your life in general. This guy may be great, and you undoubtedly have feelings for him, but you can't rely on one person to supply your feelings of self-worth, as I learned the hard way. Take care of yourself foremost; healthy people are attracted to healthy individuals, and healthy relationships can form from there! Always remember that you ARE worthy of love and respect. Good luck, sweetie.
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