O.K. I should probably see a therapist, but here it goes. I am scared of a relationship. I denied it for a while saying I just like being single, that I didn't truly like that boy that much. But I am scared, cause I don't want to get physical at all. I am 17 though. And it creeps me out when a guy grabs me closer or tried any of the umm bases as the kids in my class tell me. Am I odd? I think I may be doing it cause I want to be content with myself first emotionally and physically, but I pretty much am. I know you will scarleteens staff will ignore this post, and give me a random article. But what I am really hoping for is someone to tell me I am not alone and others want to stay pure like me too.
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Hey! It's okay to not want to be in a relationship. I didn't have my first boyfriend or kiss until I was comfortable with myself at age late 17. Only awkwardness will occur if you force a relationship when you feel like you don't want to be in one right now. When the time is right you will know. Also, being in a relationship will not make you "unpure," trust me, there are PLENTY of partners out there who would like to abstain from sex also and may be looking for a nonphysical relationship like yourself.
I also have a bunch of friends who would rather focus on school or work or other activities important to them in their lives rather than having to put so much attention into a relationship. I've been with my first boyfriend for 8 months now and it does involve a lot of my time that sometimes should be more focused on school work. I always think that school should come first though. Anyways, I'd just like to tell you that you are not alone!
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