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I do not understand the male psyche. I should, I'm intelligent right, and I have guts and I ask questions most gils would piss their pants before asking. So why can't I do it???

Story= I like boy, boy year younger than me, boy might go to boarding school, boy maybe like me. me hate grapevine no ask boy that way. Boy really funny, and good friend. Boy sole amusement in two classes, fall asleep he not there. Me no want his young mind balk, me no want his parents yelling cradle robber. Me no know whether he even redy for relationship. he goes my school, sits with me in classes, eats lunch with me. Boy no make move. FLirts, huge eye contact, tons smiles and laughs. Me get sick? He only one call and keep me amused. He tell me if I die, he never speak me again. Me get frustrated. Not understand!!! Then boy ask me go track meet. Me no frustrated. Me go, watch run, he sit by me on bus. Still say nothing. Walk me home, still do nothing. Me no know whether he think just friend, or more. Me be young and innocent. Me no understand males psyche. Me need people older and wiser telling me what to do. what go through boys head???

That is the end of my rant. Basically my neurotic mind needs reassurances from males, or knowledgable females, that the signs I'm reading aren't just a boy being a boy, but a boy trying to get his point across ineffectively. Make sense?

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Okay, first of all, one REALLY important thing: the "male psyche" is really no different than the "female psyche". Making generalizations based on gender is really not cool, and will get you absolutely nowhere. This guy is a person, just like you are, not some strange alien being from another galaxy.

It sounds like he just might be a bit shy, and unsure of what to do, just like you sound like you are. We're not mind readers here, so we can't tell you what he's thinking or feeling, but if I had to guess, that would be it.

So, what can you do? Talk. To. Him. Really, that's the only way you're going to get any answers.

(By the way, one year's age difference really isn't a big deal, even in high school I've found, so if you're worrying about that endlessly, you really shouldn't be concerned.)

[This message has been edited by karybu (edited 02-28-2006).]

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