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A couple of days ago i broke up with my girlfriend of 13 months. I didnt feel the same way about her anymore, i felt that we should just be friends. She was devestated, and i feel incredibly bad that i caused her so much pain. It doesnt help that people keep telling me how heart broken she is. I still feel i made the right choice as wouldnt have been fair on either of us to stay together when one of us wasnt really commited

There is also another problem. A while before we broke up, i stared to get close to on of my best friends and started having strong feelings for her, and could tell that she felt the same about me. This had nothing to do with me breaking up with my girlfriend, which would have happened anyway. But now my friend and i really want to be together, but i kno we cant because of how it would hurt my ex. and i couldnt bear to cause her anymore pain. whenever i see my friend i feel guilty afterwards because she makes me feel so happy. Should i feel bad that im happy when my ex isnt? i really dont know what to do?

Nobody said it would be easy, fighting your way through another day

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I think that there is nothing wrong with you being happy. You did the right thing in breaking up with your gf I've been where u r and i felt the same way but after a while he got over it. So will ur x. I think u should still try to have a close friendship with ur x and u should take a chance with ur friend if she makes u happy.


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I think at this point, it would be good for you to be single for a while. It will help you decide what you need and want, and it will spare your ex some extra heartbreak.

Put some distance emotionally between the break up, your ex, and yourself. After a period of time, say a couple months, pursue a friendship if you'd like with your ex. At that time emotionally, you should be okay for another romantic relationship. But really, you're still healing emotionally.

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