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my boyfriend recently brokeup with me and the other night, i met a really nice guy at a party and we ended up talking for a long time. i really like him and i want to pursue something with him. i had absolutely no doubts about asking him out on another date until i found out that he's two years behind me in school, menaing that he is probaly nineteen or so (I am 21). is this too young? no one thinks twice about a 19 year old girl dating a 21 year old guy, but i was wondering if it is okay to do such an age difference going the other way. i feel okay about it: i guess i am more worried about other people's perceptions. what do you think? chould i pursue this or just let it drop entirely?
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As long as you and he both are okay with it, there shouldn't be an issue.

You're both legal adults, and as such can make that decision for yourselves.

Pursue it if you want. You might find him to be an excellent partner, regardless of age.

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once you get out of your teens, a two year gap is pretty much negligible. a few of my closest galpals are going out with guys 2 years younger than them: 27+25, 23+21, 24+22, 20+18.

it's okay if you feel okay with it. consider what stage you both are in right now. are you both in school? are you both working? are you independent? it helps if you're on similar planes right now so it doesn't seem like your lives are too separate and you have trouble relating.

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well Fuzzybunny.

i dont know why you would care what other people think, it really does not matter what people say or think, really, just go with the flow, if he sound like a nice guy then get to know him better, what do you have to lose by getting to know him?. BUT if he turns out to be really immature then you have some choices to make, like ( is he worth you'r time?) or ( will it cause more problems dating him than not?)
the choice is you'rs.

Zander: hope i helped.

[This message has been edited by Zander (edited 02-14-2006).]

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so, i did some research (by talking to him) and found out that he is 18. so he is 18 and i am 21 and apparently, he hasn't dated before (i have) does anyone think this would be weird? i think that i am okay with it but i'm worried that i am robbing the cradle...
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Actually, if you JUST had a breakup the other evening, I'd suggest you give yourself to process that first -- let's say a few weeks? -- before starting to pursue a new relationship with ANYONE.
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