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firefox1337
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me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 2 years. We are both in high school and i was wondering if this might be unhealthy?
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Ecofem
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Certainly not inherently, but perhaps if you're unhappy or if you're feeling held back by it.

How do you feel about your relationship, your goals, and your life overall? How more years of school do you have left?


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oOo Lea oOo
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I agree. Unless this relationship hakes you unhappy or you aren't content with your relationship, it should have no reason to be unhealthy.

I also think that posting about your relationship to be unhealthy might lead to doubts or concern. I think you need to address any concerns you have about your relationship.

I agree, too, that if you are almost out of high school you should consider your goals after highschool. Where do you see yourself? What do you want for yourself? Does your partner have similar goals? If not, can you and your partner still fulfill your goals and be in a relationship?

I think you need to think about what you want now. If everything falls into place, and you have no major concerns, then I have no reason to believe that it can be unhealthy.

Good luck!

[This message has been edited by oOo Lea oOo (edited 02-14-2006).]


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firefox1337
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yeah i am pretty happy and she is too. I was just wondering because some people said it wasnt good that we are together for so long. But they are wrong thanks
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Well, glad to hear you two are happy. Who are the "some people"? Assuming they aren't just naysayers, I'd hear them out-- you don't have to agree but they may raise an important point. For example, did your parents tell you this? Because they are truly looking out for you and their reasons could be valid, such as "We feel you are basing your college decision too much on your girlfriend," etc. ?
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yeah those some people was my parents. I think they told me that because they got married in high school and it pretty much limited there abilities and stuff like that.
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