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dark_master
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I am a 15yr old male from an vietnamese decent and my parents are those kind of parents who expect me to marry or date in my future someone of my same ethinicity, they wont mind who i marry as i grow older since im only currently 15, but if i were to marry for example someone other than
viet, my parents and family, relatives etc. would be extremely stereotypic about it, and plus they are always strict would this subject, my life will probably be full of negative connotations and its hard 2 talk to my parents about it

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DarkChild717
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Well, frankly, at 15, you don't have to worry about marriage anytime in the future.

I'll advise against lying or sneaking about, but if the situation of dating outside your ethnicity comes up, then talk to your parents about it.

You might want to check out these links from our FAQ: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/000836.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/001251.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/002082.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/002361.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/004405.html


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dark_master
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yea i guess i should talk with them, i kno i shouldnt worry about marraige but they wont let me have a gf until im close 2 getting married, i understand and respect their wishes but its just thats a long time away
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DarkChild717
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Keep in mind that while we encourage working with one's family as the best route to go, if you're a US citizen, at 18 your are a legal adult. Once you are out of your parent's home, legally they cannot force to you marry, not date, or anything else.

Also, could you please write in proper English from now on? Thanks!


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witchdokta
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You should definitely talk to them; not least because they need to realise for themselves that that kind of isolationist attitude is one of the root causes of racism and discrimination in the world.
However, hopefully, once you've found the right person that you really want to marry, when they meet her, they'll fall in love with her too and it'll all be OK -- hopefully! :-D

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dark_master
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Hey thanks alot, I am going to talk to them about this.
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