I am 16 yrs. old and i dated a guy named shane for 5 yrs. now he is 20. Everything was great the first 3 yrs and then we started to fall apart. I love him so much and we have been broke up for 10 months now and we still talk and we r still sexually involved with one another. He says he doesnt have time for a relationship with me b/c of work but he says he wants us to have something in the future and he loves me and cares about me. Sometimes when I bring the whole "US" deal up he says i dont wanna talk about it and he avoids it and he says it hurts him.And if he finds out I am talkin to another guy he gets really mad and wont talk to me. Do u think he really wants to be with me. What should I do?
Posts: 1 | From: bean station, tennessee, usa | Registered: Feb 2006
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you want a relationship, but he doesn't. that's what it is. but you are giving him the essential elements of a relationship while he's not committing to give you the support you want in a partner. boy are YOU getting the short end of the stick.
i'll give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he still does feel *something* for you. it's hard not to feel something for a person you spend a lot of time with and have a lot of happy history with. but at this point, it's HISTORY and you're not getting him back.
so let him go and move on. no more sex. you can be friends, but honestly, YOU are not going to be happy just being friends.
Wow you sound a lot like me. I'm 18 now and I went through somethin like that. Me and this guy dated for three years and he was older than me. After dating that long he decided that we should be "just friends" because he was busy with college, work etc... We kept having sex and talking we just wern't a "couple" It made me mad that we were doing all the "couple" things but he wouldn't call us that. He kept telling me that he loved me and as soon as he got his life together he would make a commitment to me. Anyway I told you all that to say in the end I was just being used. It was all good for him with no strings attached. He got what he wanted from me and then decided to leave me. I'm not sayin your guy is like that but be careful. I thought my guy was a good guy but because I was a lot younger than him and a little naive he took advantage of that. If he says your not in a relationship than don't do the relationship things like having sex. I did and I wound up pregnant with no boyfriend because we weren't in a relationship and there was no commitment.
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