Hi. Well here's the situation. My best friend (we've ben friends since we were 18 months and are now 16) and I seem to like the same guy. He's a friend of both of ours, but the thing is she started making comments about how "hot" he is and stuff first. During that time I didn't want to admit to myself that I liked this guy. But then we hung out a couple of times and i find that i really do like him. I told my friend that i felt guilty, but that I liked him too. She said that it wasn't a problem but SHE wouldn't date him because then she would feel like a bad friend. But my problem is, I don't know what is appropriate for me to do with this guy and what isn't. I don't know if I'm allowed to make a move or not, and I don't really know how to explain this to my friend. I feel like I can't do anything since she liked him "first" or something. So basically I just need to know how to approach this situation.Thanks alot for taking the time to read this.
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the same thing happened to me and my best friend last year. I met a guy at our midwinter dance, and i developed an interest in him. She met him later through me or soemthing, idk, i don't really remember how she met him, but, anywho, she met him, and she started liking him too.
I told her that i wouldn't go out with him because i wasn't into him like that, i just thought he was cute (i really actually was attracted to him, but i really didn't want to date him) anywho, she went out with him for a month or so, and then broke up. She went to a different school the next year, and i am still friends with the boy but don't date him.
Soory to stray too far off topic, my point is, none of it really made any difference, if your friend is like me and truly would not mind if you dated him, then, by all means. but if you know it would really harm your friendship, or even think that it may alter it, don't do it. Since you are 17 or 18 (..? or something, like that...), i doubt you are going to marry this guy, so he is not worth a 16 year friendship. The desision (sp) is all up to you because only you know how it will affect your friendship...Good Luck
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