ok ok.... i have a question. ive been with my boyfriend a very long time(4 yrs almost), but when we were talking i went out with a guy and whatever it didnt work out we had gone to the same school and everyone was always talking smack! and after we broke up we were friends but he started to ignore me and only talk to me on the phone or online, but i do still have feeling for him. im now with my recent boyfriend though and were not doing bad i just feel the i havnt finshed things with my ex boyfriend. should i break up with my recent boyfriend to finish things with my ex or just leave it how it is and just not talk to my exboyfriend anymore?
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okay i was just in a situation like this over the summer, and it worked out for me only b/c i wasn't suppose to be with either of them.. but i broke up w/ my current, only cuz we weren't together for very long.. like, 3 days lol. so i tried it back w/ my ex (big mistake) and it didn't work. so my old current bf gave me another chance and we went back out but it wasn't right so we just broke up. yah. so pretty much everybody got hurt but me.
save everyone the drama and just figure out what you can w/o changing things so you don't have to impact anybody with that. hold off and try to figure things out yourself as much as you can..
You know, four years is a long time to just up and toss like this.
And to resolve things with someone, you don't need to re-establish a romantic relationship with them. In fact, that's a really crummy idea, especially since a breakup after four years isn't going to leave you in ANY place to be with someone new right away.
But you can simply TALK to that ex: have lunch or coffee. bring up whatever you feel is unresolved. This is generally how one seeks resolution maturely and soundly.
bear in mind, too, that realy does anything with anyone feel 100% "finished." People are just more complex than that, as are relationships.
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