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ayeayeaye
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i need to have a serious discussion with my boyfriend about our relationship, its basically going to be like...this needs to happen or else i really can't be in the relationshiop anymore. the problem is, i cry...a lot.i dont' really want to talk to him face to face about it because its kind of indepth and i dont' want to leave anything out that i want to say and i know i will start crying on word 1 and i don't want that to affect his reply. i don't want to talk to him online either just cause it seems kind of immature...so what do you guys think about writing a note. that way i an get my thoughts togther and organized so it actually makes sense, or would that not be a good way to go about it. i figure i can hand it to him and tell him that ineed him to read it, its serious and i need to hear back from him....waht do you guys think?
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DarkChild717
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Either write him a note, or make notes for yourself to ensure you say everything you need to say.

Ultimatums are best issued in person. A note won't do it all for you, but it can be a helpful tool.


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i would say write him a long letter/note thing explaining wte it is you want to explain then hand it to him in person and let him read it and then talk about it from there once he understand what it is u mean to say
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I have the same issue as you. It is hard for me to give someone news that may hurt them. But. . If things aren't working out in a relationship . . Something obviously has to be done.

I agree that anything serious, like a problem in a relationship, should be announced in person. It isn't always easy to do. Try writing your feelings down. Anything you love about your relationship, things you need to work on, then sit down and have a talk with him. Show him your notes even, if it helps. Sit with him and talk about everything you have written. The hardest part is getting started. Once you have looked your partner face to face and addressed that you guys have an issue to work out . . The hardest part is over. It gets easier from that point. Take it from me, I have recently addressed something very secretive about myself. I hope what I have said has helped you! GOOD LUCK!!

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thanks everyone, i appreciate the replies
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