Hi, all. I'm new to the board (a bit of a lurker), and I've got a question. I'm sorry if this has been posted before. . .
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and four months now, and our communication outside of seeing eachother isn't too great. We don't go to the same school, so we can't see eachother everyday, so it proves difficult. I mean, when we're together is when we get everything out - talk about everything that's on our minds, etc. But I only get to see him on the weekends, and we don't talk much during the week due to our conflicting schedules and what not. I REALLY love being with him, but I just wish that I could be with him more often or something. I know that it can be resolved somehow. . . He's not very good with phone conversations; he's not one to spill about his day, as he claims it is "uninteresting and average".
Now, I'm going to re-state that when we are together we're fine. I have a great time with him, and we mesh really well - have great, fun conversations, and we make eachother laugh, too. I want this relationship to last, as I know it can. He is very special to me, and I would hate to see my thoughts outrule my heart. There's so much potential, and I know he feels the same, too.
I DON'T think this is worth a break-up. I know it can be worked out one way or the other. Whether it means we should see eachother more ofthen (like, say one day in the middle of the week) or something. I just need some advice on this.
I LIVE with my boyfriend and sometimes I'm lucky if we get one night of quality time a week together - there have been entire weeks where I only see him when he's asleep, and vice versa. We both go to school (with very different schedules), work, have homework and other activities, etc. Before we were living together, our situation was a lot like you're describing....saw each other once a week, rarely talked on the phone (neither one of us really likes phone conversations).
Really, what you're describing is pretty typical for a lot of people. It may sound obvious, but all you can really do is try to make the most of the time you do get to have together.
[This message has been edited by karybu (edited 01-28-2006).]
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