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Okay well, me and my bf were talking on the phone in my room and were talking about the Sybaris. Its a hotel for couples and its really romantic. ANyhow, my mom heard our conversation cuz she was being NOSY and now she is always trying to be all up in my business and thinks that im having sex which im not. I never mentioned to my bf about going there, we were just talking about it. Now she is trying to be all strict with me, making me be home all early, and is acting wierd. I tried talking to her, but she just doesnt understand. What should I do???
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Over time, I have come to recognize that a parent's protection of their child is not a lost cause. Annoying as it is, it really can help you.

However, your mother does not know that in this case you are not 'in danger', per se. Could you try speaking to her in a calm manner about how you understand her concern but that you and your boyfriend were simply discussing the Sybaris out of curiosity or because you thought it was interesting?

I would recommend not trying to push your mother away too much, it could hurt her. Annoying as it is that she is prying into your business, I'm guessing she is just trying to look out for you.

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I agree with babygirl88.

And as much as it sucks right now, your mom has every right to be 'all up in your business' while you're living under her roof and she's providing all the necessities of life.

Talk to her. Though it'll be really easy to do, try not to get too defensive. If you're truely not doing anything wrong, there is no reason to be defensive. If you're honest with her and give her no reason to doubt you, she may lift these restrictions she has on you.

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Firstly, talk to you Mum about the fact she invaded your privacy. Tactfully tell her that she needs to respect your privacy and that he should trust you and respect you enough to know that you aren't having sex. Find a way of telling her that it is unfair of her to tighten her rules because of a snippet of out-of-context conversation that she shouldn't have been listening to in the first place. Tell her that you are thankful that she is so caring and wants to protect you, but that is something was going on that you would tell her. It might be hard to say this stuff without causing a slight argument, but if you're gentl she should be pleaed you were adult enough to have this discussion.
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