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All right so I see that there have been a few posts about long distance relationships so I'm going to try and attempt to make my question different...

There is a guy that I've known for over a year now...and we started talking nearly ten months ago. We've gotten very close and while we're NOT exclusive (as in...I'm not his girlfriend/he's not my boyfriend) we act rather exclusive. Also, I love him a great deal and I'm fairly certain in the fact that he loves me too. The problem is that in the fall, he's going to go back to the college he originally went to a few years ago because the university we BOTH attend right now doesn't have his desired major. This other college is about 2-3 hrs away. Then last night I overheard him tell a friend that he plans on moving up there this get an apartment and a job before school starts. The fact that this is only a couple of months away has slapped me with a dose of reality. I'm making no illusions (I'm not a very optimistic person) and I doubt that we'll still be as close once he moves away...especially since he WON'T have a car...and mine isn't so reliable--so now I'm left wondering if I should just end it now...or just enjoy what we have until it's done. Any advice or words of wisdom?

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From somewhat, though slightly different, personal experience as it's happening in the present right now, I'd say stick with it and enjoy it while it's there.

You have a rational, realistic view of your relationship and the situation, which helps a good deal, and if it makes you happy, why not just see where things go?

The philosophy of "End it now to make it hurt less later." has always seemed ridiculous to me, plus, if you were to break things down now you'd really only be assuring you'd lose communication and you would grow more distant in the future.

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