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irishmike
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I have a problem. I have many female friends who I am generally always there for. The thing is when I have an erection all of the sudden I become a completly different person where all I can think of is sex. I've tried many ways to get rid of this such as masterbation before hand, always focusing on something else, and even smoking to keep me distracted. How can you deal with this problem?
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Gumdrop Girl
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Well, smoking is a lousy distraction. Try sugarless chewing gum instead.

Other than that, you're just going to have to wait to outgrow your "problem." Lots of young guys have sex on their minds because your hormones are going crazy. Erections will be frequent.

Do you want to flush the sexual thoughts out of your head? I suppose you can try focusing your thoughts on something decidedly unsexy. Or you can try meditative focus (a mantra, or intense visualization).

But I think if you just exercise great self-control, then the thoughts just stay thoughts and will not become actions. After all, the actions are what will cause the real problems, right?

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Heather
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...and you know, you are earnestly concerned about making your female friends uncomfortable.

That right there should tell you that there's very little to worry about. If you stick with the advice Gumdrop gave you, especially that last paragraph, doesn't sound to me like you've anything big to fret over.


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